Sarah's Daughters

Domestic abuse is not just physical. It often times starts by way of mental and verbal abuse. The abuser can be a romantic partner, parent, boss, or adult children. Please explore the most common signs to look for below..

Ways the abuser may attempt to control you:

• The abuser may monitor your whereabouts. The abuser may show up places to make sure you located where you told them you would be. The abuser may insist on being answered immediately when they call or text.
• The abuser may use financials as a tool to control. The abuser may keep a bank accounts, phone bills, credit cards etc.. only in their name.
• The abuser may insist that everyone feels the same way about you.  

Examples of ways the abuser isolates the victim include:

• The abuser may work to turn family, friends, co-workers, etc.. against you by insisting you're unstable.
• The abuser may keep you from socializing by begging you not to go out with friends/family, or creating distractions.
• The abuser may see you hurting or crying, and completely ignore you.

They may claim they're the reason that you have had recent, or any success. They may also make you feel as though what you've accomplished so far is very minimal. 

They will demand your passwords to your devices. They may also check your e-mails, call logs, text messages, and social media activity.

They pretend to be the hopeless victim. Often times they accuse you of being controlling, and having anger issues.

Examples of victims who are codependent include:

• Victims will consistently cancel plans with friends or family to please their partner.
• Victims will remain in an unhappy relationship because they feel they have no other alternatives.
•  Victims will often Critique themselves based on their abuser's perspective.
• The victim will guilty when they stand up for themselves.
• The victim will repress their feelings to keep from inciting an argument, or "blow up" situation.

If you are in immediate danger, please contact 911. If you have a non-emergency situation and need to speak with someone after hours, please call: the domestic violence hotline 1-800-799-7233 for 24 hours assistance. 

Sarah’s Daughters does not directly provide housing, but we do offer referrals to housing services through our local contacts and partner organizations. This means that while we may not operate shelters or transitional housing ourselves, we can help connect survivors to trusted resources in the community that do.

Yes, you absolutely can. Sarah's Daughters explicitly states that individuals other than the victim themselves are welcome to reach out on behalf of someone in need. This can be especially helpful if the victim is hesitant, overwhelmed, or unable to initiate contact themselves.

If it's a non-emergency situation, you can find contact details on Sarah's Daughters' official contact page. For emergencies, we recommend calling 911 or the 24-hour assistance line at 1-800-799-7233.

For anyone interested in attending, our weekly support groups you should reach out directly to Rev. Bertha Reels at 732-318-4116 to learn more or confirm participation. These groups can provide:

• A safe, confidential space to share experiences

• Emotional support from others who understand

• Guidance rooted in faith and empowerment

• Tools for recovery and resilience

Sarah’s Daughters is a community of healing, empowerment, and purpose. We welcome individuals who feel called to stand with survivors, support families, and help strengthen our communities through education, advocacy, and compassionate outreach.

Whether you are a survivor seeking connection, an ally wanting to serve, or someone who simply believes in our mission, you are invited to join us.

To learn more about membership, volunteer opportunities, or ways to get involved, please reach out directly to our founder and Executive Director, Rev. Dr. Bertha Reels. She will gladly provide information, guidance, and next steps for becoming part of the Sarah’s Daughters family.